Decisions and Power

During the last class we had, we discussed the different influences that a couple has when it comes to making decisions. We also talked about the principle of least interest. When I left class, I was wondering how both the principle of least interest and the different influences (in particular, the legitimate influence) would affect a couple and what it would look like. I began thinking about abusive relationships. In these relationships, the abuser is usually the one with the least interest. They may say things like "If you don't do that, I will leave you," or "If you tell anyone, I will end this relationship." The abusee in some cases may believe that there is a chance to change their partner, and invests much more interest than the other. The abuser may also be the primary decision maker. Not because they are expert in a certain area or because they care for their partner, but because they have the ultimate authority in the relationship.
Watching for couples and families who display legitimate influence more than the other kinds of influence is something that I feel is important in my future career. I know that not all couples where one person holds the authority are abusive, but it is certainly something to pay close attention to. Also, being aware of the interest invested into the relationship. If one partner really doesn't care if the relationship ends, and the other does everything possible to keep it going, then there may be something to observe closer with their interactions with each other. It may be a relationship for convenience for one person in the relationship, or it could end up being an abusive relationship for one person in another relationship. It is something that I am going to have to watch closely.