adolescents. Where do I start? I remember those days; I was awkward and tried to please others and was really worried about my appearance. My friends were my main priority over my family and I was striving for independence. Then when I got my first car I felt free. I could go where I wanted when I wanted, after approving it with my parents of course, but I could get there all by myself.
Being the oldest child, my parents had a difficult time being flexible and letting me learn things on my own. I felt like I was being protected and although that is okay to a certain extent, it started to get excessive. Before I left for college my mom was just driving me insane and trying to control everything I did even more so than before. I couldn't wait to come to UNL and get away from her. It's funny how much has changed.
I think parents need to realize that their kids will grow up, they won't stay young forever and they need to to be independent adults. There definitely still needs to be boundaries, but parents need to realize that adolescents will push those boundaries as much as possible. They need to be there for their children and understand that the behavior will change and they will need to adjust rules and punishments accordingly. However, they need to have a certain amount of freedom to become strong, independent adults.
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