Single Life

Tuesday's lecture was really hard for me and I related to it well. I was struggling with the idea of breaking up with my boyfriend. I was conflicted and trying to figure out what happened and what had changed. When we talked about what impacts the decision, it opened my eyes. My goals, peers, and context were changing but he was not. It was interesting to learn the advantages and disadvantages of being single. I was relating those things to my roommate who's relationships last a few weeks and then she is unhappy and looking for another. I was also shocked by the number of people and their "stuff" you have actually slept with. I told her about it after class and she sort of laughed it off. When we started talking about the self and who we are I started understanding what I thought was going on with my boyfriend and I. He waits on me hand and foot and would do anything for me and that's fine for a while but I was getting tired of it like we talked about. It made sense to me that maybe he is playing a role more than being himself and he doesn't even realize it because he is so wrapped up in the relationship. I can see why these concepts and facts would be helpful to a professional who was trying to help a couple or even a single adult. I never ended up making any drastic decisions but this class really did open my eyes.