I think that the most important discussion we had on Tuesday was talking to people who are single but don't see it as a choice and opportunity for improvement. I have many friends who are incredibly disappointed by being single, especially since it seems as though there is a new couple getting engaged every other week. However, I think these same friends realize that if they really wanted to get married, they could drop the standards they have and find someone to marry, even though that person would be far from ideal.
At the same time, I have heard many people discuss the benefits of being single for a while. I know I have used time as a single person to learn more about myself and change things I didn't like, but I never realized before why this is so much easier to do when single. By applying the concept of homeostasis we learned that it is very difficult to change while in a relationship because you're attempting to change not only yourself, but how you fit in a pair. This means that you would have to change many areas of function and process in your life as well as have a partner who is willing to cooperate and understands those changes. When single, however, your relationship consists of focusing on just one person, making it easier to create changes.
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